Posted on July 29th, 2011 by cynthia.
So Lashawnda and I have finally settled in Brooklyn (for the time being), thankfully we have a friend that is letting us stay with him until we get on our feet because we basically packed up everything in less than a month for this move. It was stressful to say the least, folks say that you bond through stressful situations (hopefully) then we have enough to last us until we decide to have children.
At the same time, we are extremely happy to be given this opportunity. There are some learning curves and figuring out how having a car SUCKS (even in a more “suburban” area) in Brooklyn. However, with the recent passing of the same-sex marriage state wide has opened up all types of possibilities for us. Which is nice because we bounced around so much ESPECIALLY before we knew where we were going, so it is nice to at least have the bulk of the situation figured out.
So, where does that leave us? Well, finding a place indoors to hold a wedding. We are still planning for March 2012 and NY winters are no joke (I’ve been here to witness part of it) but we want something where we won’t have to deal with traffic (HA) and crowds. We’ve been here for close to 2 weeks, so we are at the point of getting acclimated because it is LOUD here and not having central air is taking me back to my days overseas, so it’s an adjustment but it’s all new and fun.
Not to mention that with the passing of the bill that there are heaps of wedding things to get into. So, I’m taking full advantage and will report back. I plan to be at the Pop-Up Chapel on July 30th, which is gearing up to be a huge, FREE, lovely and did I mention FREE event. Basically, they have it set up that all you have to do is bring yourself and your other half and the marriage certificate and they’ll take care of the rest. They’ll marry you and provide cupcakes in lieu of a cake. Supposedly it is going to be held in Central Park – so I will make sure to take photos to share with you guys.
Being that I’m getting back into the swing of things, is there any questions or topics that you’d like me to expand on? Let me know, I’m pretty much an open book at this point.
Posted on January 20th, 2011 by cynthia.
My fiancee and I have been tossing around different ideas when it comes to wedding locales. I think every feasible place where a gay couple could get married has come up in our day-to-day talks and then for a while, we felt that we would have a destination wedding. Which would allow us to combine both the wedding and honeymoon and from what I’ve researched that would allow things to be somewhat cheaper than having the wedding in one place and then going somewhere for the honeymoon. So we finally had it settled, we would have our wedding on a beach or in Europe and then enjoy our honeymoon in whatever locale the wedding took place. A walk in the park, right? So, of course things wouldn’t be that easy but let’s continue on with the story. (more…)
Posted on December 31st, 2010 by SD.
I think that picking our wedding venue was a fascinating process. Sites like Here Comes The Guide and blogs like this one provided us with invaluable information about cost, gay friendliness, photos of other weddings and food options. After reading a lot of blogs I determined that the following things were important for our venue selection:
- Gay owned/operated (keeping our money within the community is super important to us)
- Options for catering (we found that some venues had exclusive catering contracts with one vendor and my partner is not a fancy food person – it stressed us out thinking about how to get someone who loves to make foofy fig infused pork chops to making Southern style comfort food)
- Within the city limits of San Francisco (I once found a wedding calculator that estimated the average cost of a SF wedding is $38,000-40,000 – um, whoa)
- Reception & Ceremony at the same location (we’re not doing a religious ceremony, so no need to find a house of worship)
- Lots of options for decorations (Being a DIY kinda girl – I want to make sure that I can add my own personal touches to the ceremony/reception site)
We went with this list up to Guerneville and looked at a few venues. Our guest list at the time was about 100+ and after we did some calculations with food, hotel and booze – we’d be spending almost $200/pp – that’s crazy! I was disheartened on the way home from our visit up to Guerneville we cut our guest list in half and swore that we could find something in the city limits of SF that would work. I thought about all of the gay owned/operated venues in the city that I knew and we started doing some research. One night I had a flash of genius and thought about a local gay owned bar in the Mission District called, El Rio. I contacted the owner and we set up a meeting. I was excited about El Rio because I’ve been there numerous times for various parties and fundraisers and the owner is great to work with. She is very generous and easy to work with.
Posted on November 19th, 2010 by Sar.
After we were done shooting our group and couple shots we headed over to meet our guests at the reception.
As we entered the supper club our amazing jazz band, Lapis Luna, performed “Beyond the Sea,” and I lead my beautiful Wife to the dance floor.