So You're EnGAYged, A Gay Wedding Blog

So, as I said in an earlier post, I don’t think the topic of God and homosexuality is as open-and-shut as a lot of our opponents claim it to be. On a really basic level, how the heck could anyone know what God thinks? Why not just give us all the same rights and let God figure it out in the end? But I’m getting off-topic. A lot of arguments are made that are Bible-based, and I’d like to address some of those here.

First of all, the Bible only talks about homosexual relations in terms of sex outside of a marriage or committed relationship…which it always says is wrong. The Bible never speaks (explicitly, anyway) about sex between a loving, committed gay couple. So with that in mind, in my opinion, that the broad argument of “the Bible says it’s wrong” doesn’t have any validity.

Second, let’s look at the “explicitly” comment I made above. Some biblical scholars say that there are loving, committed relationships in the Bible, and because of thousands of years of translations and mistranslations, among other things, they aren’t explicit. One of the readings I plan to have at our wedding, Ruth 1:16-17, references one of them.

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Dana and I were both raised Catholic, but my growing up was a bit stricter. We both attended Catholic grade school and high school, but I never missed a Sunday mass, and I also attended a Catholic university…and have a degree in Theology from said university. With that being said, it’s surprising to me that of all the issues we both had with coming out, none of them were God-related. It’s only when we were shopping for a church that I had any problem. You see, growing up, though I wasn’t the type to daydream about her wedding, there were two things I always imagined, and one of them was getting married in the church I grew up in. Needless to say, that wasn’t going to happen, and finding a different church (and religion) were going to be a challenge for me. The first Unitarian-Universalist church we attended was way too lax. I didn’t feel like I was at church, and that just wasn’t going to work. I need a little structure in my services. The church we ultimately decided on, though, is perfect. It actually feels to me like a church, and that really says it all. I actually get a little weepy every time I attend a service there, which, though really embarrassing, is very telling to me.

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