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Engagement Photos and Gender Roles, Part 2

8 Jul

Michelle Bio | Posts

In my last post about our engagement photos, I was still struggling to find an outfit that I loved, but wouldn’t come across as too definitive in our relationship roles. Bridesmate Beth was concerned that wearing a fancy vest and pants could be a little ‘butch’, which was a frustrating but accurate thought. What really constitutes a butch lesbian anyway? Well, I was unsure of the exact definition, so I looked it up.

According to the highly regarded, but academically unsound UrbanDictionary.com, a butch lesbian is defined as an overtly/stereotypically masculine or masculine-acting womanCan be used to denote an individual, or the dominant role in a lesbian relationship. Huh. Then, my little internet definition adventure took me into sub-categories: Stone Butch, Sport Dyke, Soft Butch, Chapstick Lesbian, Fellagirly, Gym Queen, Tomboy Femme, Futch and the list goes on and on!  I’m all for defining oneself, but on any given day, I could fit into any of these labels and more! If the labels were sewn into jeans, I could even be a Blue Jean Femme.

Why are we, as a community, so quick to jump to assumptions about others gender identities and relationship roles? And why are we so adamant on sticking to the traditional hetero-normative definition of what a couple should be? (Excuse that last sentence, I sort of threw up in my mouth as I typed it, but it is still true– vomit inducing or no.) I’ll be the first to admit that if I saw a photo of a lady in a dress and her partner (who happens to be…um….. ‘cherubic’ in weight) in pants, I too would make a quick decision on their relationship roles (aka who was butch or femme).  But what if you saw that cherubic gal in a skirt and her lady in workout clothes, showing off her super-toned arms? Who is the ‘butch’ now?  Because on any given day, that is little ol’ me and my bicep crushing Deborah.

Deborah and I in the summer of '08 at The 'Shoe on Ohio State University's campus in some of our typical outfits. Photo by Bridesmate Ashlea

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Real Gay Engagement in New York, NY: Brian and Tom

30 Jun

So You're EnGAYged Bio | Posts

Yes, this is a real engagement…but were actually featuring our very own blogger Brian!

Last month, Tom and I had our engagement shoot with the fabulous Kristina Hill, who just last week was added to SYE! She snapped us in some of our favorite spots in DUMBO and Brooklyn Heights. One of my favorite locations was the courthouse. I felt it imperative to shoot a few there in protest to the inequality we face in our home state. Those photos are my favorite!

Anyway, we just had the best time with her. And, we brought lots of fun props. I strongly suggest that all couples brings things to play with in their shoots!  We never had a dull moment and just look at some of the photos that came out of that day!!! If you are looking for a photographer, I highly recommend booking Kristina! You’ll be glad you did.


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Wedding Planning Trip: Part 2 – Engagement Photos

7 May

Mandy Bio | Posts

Despite being married and not actually engaged, we still jumped at the opportunity to do engagement photos – because, really, who can have too many pictures of themselves being a cute couple?!?!?!  We can’t.  We initially didn’t think we’d get a chance to do any, because we didn’t know if we were going to get to go down to the US anytime before the wedding.  But we managed to plan a quick trip and our photographer, Kelly Prizel, was able to meet us in New York  the same weekend we were there.  We went out to the Brooklyn Bridge (one of our favourites spots) and City Hall, and were lucky enough to have amazing weather (so amazing, that it seemed the entire city took advantage of it and was out on the bridge - there are a lot of other people in our pictures, which is kinda fun).

*See my foot in a cast?  Yeah.  That’s been fun.  I’m supposed to have it off two weeks before the wedding… keeping my fingers crossed.  More on that in another post.*


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Fall engagement session

23 Mar

Alyia Bio | Posts

I was planning to submit this to SYE before I was a blogger, but then I decided to apply to write, and once I knew I’d been accepted I was so excited that I just kind of forgot about it for a while.  I find it hard to believe that happened, since I’m still so blown away by the pictures!  Ross Mantle is a friend of a friend and Stacy and I were immediately impressed with the artistry and creativity of his work.  His background is in photojournalism, and although he’s in the early stages of his career, his talent is definitely taking him places (he’s shot for the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal).  I think these pictures will explain why we were so excited when he agreed to shoot our wedding.

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Real Gay Engagement: Boston, MA : Kelly Alice and Chris

15 Feb

Kelly Bio | Posts

A big thanks to Kate McElwee Photography for sending these over. I actually spotted these in my RSS subscriber because I follow Kate’s blog but she emailed them to me before I could ask. Woot!


Chris: Kelly Alice and I met through a mutual friend, Erica. Erica, who lives in Philadelphia, actually went to college (Penn State) with KA and she also dates my very good friend Jo, who lives in New Orleans. One day Erica sends me an IM saying, “Do you like girls with tattoos?” to which I replied, “it depends on the tattoo…” Thankfully KA has good tattoos so she made the introductions and KA and I had an amazing 1st date.

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Real Gay Engagement in Disneyland: Beth and Jenny

16 Nov

So You're EnGAYged Bio | Posts

Beth and Jenny were awesome enough to write all about their engagement story after Amy from Teegan Photography submitted their engagement photographs. They went to Disneyland(!!) for their engagement session and I’m very jealous that they could include ferris wheels in their shots.
From Jenny:
Beth and I dated for approximately three years before our big day. We fell in love fast and instantly had an unmistakable connection. Within about a year of dating, we knew there was something special there and that we didn’t want to be with anyone else.
Disneyland has always had a special meaning to us. It has always been our “thing to do”, having season passes, naturally, living in Southern California. Beyond that, this is a place where we always connected. It became a special tradition. It was about special connection, walking while holding hands, enjoying the carefree atmosphere, screaming on rides together, etc. Specifically, there was one moment while sitting on a bench in California Adventure overlooking the water (fabulous view at night), where we spent a good amount of time reminiscing about our relationship and how special it was. From then on we spent the next year building a strong, solid foundation and were bonded more than ever before.
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Pumpkin Patch Engagement Photographs

4 Nov

Ms. Sparrow Bio | Posts

If you remember we were pretty disappointed with our first engagement photos, so we had a redo with Kelly Prizel. I had a total freak out that morning about what to wear. I was so stressed after our previous experience that this time would be awkward or uncomfortable, but it so much fun. J and I drove out to a pick your own pumpkin farm in Maryland to meet Kelly. I had a great time, especially with the goats (I love goats). We are both so happy with the experience and how the pictures turned out. If any of you still need a photographer, I highly recommend Kelly. In fact, we liked her so much that she is officially our wedding photographer!

One of the pictures below is the front of our Save the Date postcard. Can you guess which?

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Photo via Kelly Prizel Photography

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