Dating

How to Rock Your First Date

So you have been chatting with someone that you met on an online dating site and now it is time to take the plunge and actually meet for your first date.  You’re probably a little nervous but that’s okay, we’re here to give you some tips on how to rock that first date.  Read on.

Pick the Right Spot

Where you decide to meet up says a lot about your personality, here’s an example if you pick a bar or nightclub it indicates that you like to party, if you choose a coffee shop that’s more low key.  Lastly if you choose a park that indicates that you love the outdoors. Here are some other ideas about where to take someone on a first date.

Prepare in Advance

If you want to help with the anxiety of a first date then prepare ahead of time.  Find things that will help carry the conversation, talk about the other person’s interests.  Learn about the other person in advance so you can be confident talking about subjects that interest them.

Dress for the Occasion

It’s not just where you go that makes a first impression with your date but what you’re wearing as well.  Never go out on a first date looking like you just crawled out of bed.  You want your appearance to be neat and well groomed, make sure it is suitable for the occasion.  A good first impression goes a long way to getting a second date.

Show Up on Time

Showing up on time isn’t just a good idea it is common courtesy.  Don’t make your date wait on you, some won’t wait at all.  There are occasions where being late is unavoidable so give them the courtesy of a call or a text letting them know.  Be sure to apologize when you get there, nobody likes to be kept waiting.

Be on Your Best Behavior

It isn’t just kids who can act like a jerk even on a date.  Treating waitresses badly, being rude or forgetting the manners your mother taught you is a sure fire way to finish the date alone.  Take turns talking, don’t interrupt or talk over people and listen graciously.  Being polite and showing good manners will get you that much closer to a second date.

Going on a date for the first time with someone that you don’t know well can be intimidating.  It doesn’t have to be, remember the other person is every bit as nervous as you.  Follow these tips and your date should go fine.

How Does Matchmaking Dating Work?

If you are used to using an online dating service you’re going to find matchmaking dating services much different.  How does matchmaking dating work?  Their goal is to find you the perfect match not a long list of random dates hoping that one of them might be someone that you’re interested in pursuing a relationship with.  Let’s take a look at how the process works and whether it is for you.

Getting to Know You

Online dating services are a collection of random people posting a profile and browsing through other profiles to hopefully meet someone.  A matchmaker works differently, instead they take the time to get to know you.  Usually you will meet in person and they will get a feel for what you are looking for in a partner and the things that you don’t like.  Meeting someone for the first time comes with judgments, that isn’t a bad thing.  You notice the type of clothing they wear and how they carry themselves.

A matchmaker will ask you about your life, the goals you have and the background you come from.  This will be things like your profession, your education and the relationships you have had in the past.  They do this with every client that they take on and be prepared to have a background check done that helps to weed out anyone with bad intentions.

The Process

After the initial getting to know you meeting the matchmaker will look for a potential match and see which ones might be a match for you.  They look at things like compatibility and whether you have similar interests and goals.  They will also consider things like personal habits, the lifestyle you lead and similar faiths.  All of these factors are important along with relationship expectations.  Compatibility between two people is everything.

Going on Your First Date

Once the matchmaker has found a potential match then it is time to have the first date.  You don’t have to worry about it being a blind date, the matchmaker will introduce you and stick around to help break the ice.  This is done at a neutral setting like a coffee shop or quiet restaurant where you can relax and enjoy the experience.

What Happens Next

After the initial meet and greet is over then the matchmaker will sit down with each person individually and discuss how they felt about the meeting.  This way you and the other person can be honest about how you feel about the date.  You can honestly tell the matchmaker how you feel about the date and whether you think it was a success or you would prefer to be matched with someone else.

Finding love isn’t always easy but with the help of a matchmaker you can let someone else do most of the work for you.