Comments on: What's In a Same-Sex Wedding Ceremony? http://www.soyoureengayged.com/bloggers/whats-in-a-same-sex-wedding-ceremony/ A wedding resource for same-sex and allied couples Mon, 22 Mar 2010 12:49:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Wasabi http://www.soyoureengayged.com/bloggers/whats-in-a-same-sex-wedding-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-1062 Wasabi Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:01:45 +0000 http://www.soyoureengayged.com/?p=2799#comment-1062 Kelly, thanks for sharing how you solved this. Great idea! Kelly, thanks for sharing how you solved this. Great idea!

]]> By: Laura http://www.soyoureengayged.com/bloggers/whats-in-a-same-sex-wedding-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-1061 Laura Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:34:04 +0000 http://www.soyoureengayged.com/?p=2799#comment-1061 We had a rather traditional wedding ceremony - we had a unity candle, opening prayers, legalties, vows, more prayers and then signing the registry. We walked in together. It was a small wedding, so all our guests sat in a circle and we just walked into the middle of it. Hm, now that I write that down, there could be symbolism in that. But to be honest it was such a slacker wedding and we did what felt best on the day. We had a rather traditional wedding ceremony – we had a unity candle, opening prayers, legalties, vows, more prayers and then signing the registry.

We walked in together. It was a small wedding, so all our guests sat in a circle and we just walked into the middle of it. Hm, now that I write that down, there could be symbolism in that. But to be honest it was such a slacker wedding and we did what felt best on the day.

]]> By: Kelly Prizel http://www.soyoureengayged.com/bloggers/whats-in-a-same-sex-wedding-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-1060 Kelly Prizel Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:18:48 +0000 http://www.soyoureengayged.com/?p=2799#comment-1060 This was the hardest part for us to figure out. Who walks down the aisle first? Should we have two aisles? We ended up doing Jewish tradition and my mom(my father passed away) walked me down half way, then Nat's parents walked her to me, and then we walked the rest of the way down the aisle together. However, we changed this so many times I actually forgot in the middle of walking down the aisle which we picked and couldn't remember where to stop! So I walked a little further then we planned on and later Nat told me she was yelling at me in her head "Stop!!! Don't walk further!" Ha :) This was the hardest part for us to figure out. Who walks down the aisle first? Should we have two aisles?
We ended up doing Jewish tradition and my mom(my father passed away) walked me down half way, then Nat’s parents walked her to me, and then we walked the rest of the way down the aisle together.
However, we changed this so many times I actually forgot in the middle of walking down the aisle which we picked and couldn’t remember where to stop! So I walked a little further then we planned on and later Nat told me she was yelling at me in her head “Stop!!! Don’t walk further!” Ha :)

]]> By: Wasabi http://www.soyoureengayged.com/bloggers/whats-in-a-same-sex-wedding-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-1059 Wasabi Fri, 07 Aug 2009 14:59:02 +0000 http://www.soyoureengayged.com/?p=2799#comment-1059 I love your football analogy. I'm glad you brought this up! I've gotten these questions too. We have talked about having two aisles with guests seated in a circle or semi-circle. For a while we really wanted to walk to the huppah together, hand in hand. I think the symbol that we are walking into this together is really powerful. But lately, we have started to realize that our parents would feel left out. So, we may go with Jewish tradition and each walk down with both of our parents. I like that it's traditional and very egalitarian at the same time. I would feel weird giving my dad a big role, and not also honoring my mom in a similar way. But I'm really curious how other couples are handling this. I love your football analogy. I’m glad you brought this up! I’ve gotten these questions too. We have talked about having two aisles with guests seated in a circle or semi-circle. For a while we really wanted to walk to the huppah together, hand in hand. I think the symbol that we are walking into this together is really powerful. But lately, we have started to realize that our parents would feel left out. So, we may go with Jewish tradition and each walk down with both of our parents. I like that it’s traditional and very egalitarian at the same time. I would feel weird giving my dad a big role, and not also honoring my mom in a similar way. But I’m really curious how other couples are handling this.

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