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Getting Ready at the Venue

Posted on September 18th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 7 Comments

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We ended up getting ready in the public bathroom of the venue… which I kind of love.  I love that in our photos there is graffiti on the mirrors and I love that I had to grab hold of the bathroom stalls as I got laced into my corset.  In the midst of a beautiful day, it was nice to have a little grit.

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All images by: Kelly Prizel Photography

Beau and her best man brother were all decked out in J. Crew pants.  Beau wore a matching vest and her brother wore suspenders.  We ended up getting Beau’s shirt at Club Monaco, which sells slim fitting shirts in an extra small.  They also will tailor shirts for free.  We had them shorten the length of the sleeves.  I think she looked pretty hot if I do say so myself.

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Wedding Day Salon Visit

Posted on September 14th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 3 Comments

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I did it… I used “wife” for the first time today on the phone with the utilities company.  It’s official… we’re definitely married.

I’ll use my word-use triumph as an invitation to start the wedding re-cap posts.   Let’s start with the salon:

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All images by Kelly Prizel Photography

I totally put off making a hair and makeup appointment until it was really drawing VERY near the wedding.  I do not recommend this to others.  I had to make an appointment that was slightly too late and then I felt rushed trying to get into my party clothes and have all our formal shots taken.  I would definitely recommend getting your hair and makeup taken care of  five to six hours before the start of the ceremony.  Especially if you’ll have to do a lot of driving around from salon to hotel to venue.

My best friend and maid of honor was with me at the salon.  She took the opportunity to try and make me crack up while my makeup was being done.  This was particularly hilarous since I really couldn’t laugh or screw up my face in any way since there was always some kind of brush or pencil doing it’s intricate work on me.

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Another tip…  no matter how ridiculous and expensive it seems… get a trial hair appointment.  I wasn’t going to do it becuase it seemed totally ridiculous, but my mother convinced me that it really was a necessity, so two days before the wedding I went in for a trial.  I didn’t really know what I wanted, so I just said “um… I don’t want to look too bridal, but I think it want it up… but maybe not.”  God, that poor stylist.  Anyway, she did my hair and I HATED it… I mean… really hated it.  I felt like I was going to prom and it just didn’t feel like me.  So I had her try several more styles until she got to one that I felt really comfortable with.  Before we got the the style that I liked, I felt really stressed out and uncomfortable, like I wasn’t going to look or feel like myself on my wedding day.  I’m really glad I didn’t have to go through that on the day of my wedding. Cause when wedding day rolled around, I was cool, calm, relaxed and ready to joke around with my best friend.

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Oh… another tip… EAT.  Halfway through my salon appointment, I was FAMISHED and I realized that all I had eaten all day (it was 2pm), was a quarter of a bagel at 8am.  I had to send my MOH out to get me a smoothy, which I sipped very daintily while I got my hair done.

One tip that a married friend of mine gave me right before the salon appointment (I met up with friends in town before hand for a few minutes).  Relish your salon time… it’s the last relaxing time you’ll have all day… drink it in.

Next post… getting ready with my Beau.

Married!

Posted on August 25th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 6 Comments

Ms. Grrrl

Phew.

We did it.

We got married… and lived to tell the tale.

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I’m so overwhelmed that I’m not quite sure where to begin:

1. I cried.  a lot.

2. I felt completely overwhelmed by emotion from the moment we walked down the aisle until the afterparty started post-reception.  Completely overwhelmed. Like beyond overwhelmed. Perhaps that is why I cried. a lot.

3. Beau’s vows were perhaps the most beautiful thing I had ever heard in my entire life.

4. I feel like I could sleep for a month and still be tired.

5. I realized that you can plan and plan and plan and plan, but you will never be prepared for the actual event… it was like I was swept up in a tidal wave and pushed along at a breakneck pace, held in the arms of everyone in my life that I love, until finally landing gently at a bar and handed a beer and told to relax.

Oh my god.  I get married a week from today.  The weirdest part is that a certain calm has descended on me.  My to-do list goes around the block and there are some really quite important things that definitely have not gotten done yet, but I’m just chuggin’ along without worry. I think it’s because my entire family has started worrying.  Seeing them in a frenzy has made me realize that I don’t have to be in one anymore.

Last night I finished my “yay!” flags for people to wave as we recess back down the aisle and they’re exactly what I wanted.  My mother has been packing up the boxes and boxes and boxes of sea glass and river rocks along with the vintage milk bottles that she’s collected all year for the centerpieces. I’ve been steadily cutting out triangles from fancy paper to make banners.  My aunt is flying all around town looking for a birdcage for the cards that folks bring.  My fiance is sending in all of our balance checks to various vendors and delighting in the fact that we have not gone over budget (yet). My mother is buying up cases of wine for the rehearsal dinner.  My grandmother is making schedules of who is cooking dinner when for the entire week leading up  to the big event.  My mom’s architectural lighting friend has been cajoled into coming up early to help with the lighting for the rehearsal dinner and wedding.  And I’m just sitting pretty. Feeling happy and ready to go.

All year, in my frenzy, I read other bloggers talking about the calm that descends on them pre-wedding and I totally thought that I would not enjoy the same relaxing state — but, it turns out that I’m ready to just enjoy myself through this whole thing.  That feels really good.

Wish me luck… I’ve got a weeks worth of  last-minute planning ahead of me… let’s see if the calm can stick around.