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Wedding Afterparty

Posted on November 16th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 3 Comments

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Before our wedding, I hadn’t really realized that going to someone else’s wedding is and entirely different experience than going to your own.  You’d think that would just be common sense, but it wasn’t for me.  I did not anticipate how overwhelmed I would be.  I was beyond overwhelmed from the moment that I stepped out to walk down the aisle to the moment that I stepped into the bar for the afterparty.  Being overwhelmed wasn’t a specifically good or bad feeling — it was just intensity, really.

I think that feeling of intensity was why receptions were created. Receptions are meant to be the release that follows an incredibly emotionally intense experience.  The problem is that, unless you have a planner, you’ve probably put more energy into planning the reception than the ceremony, so the reception feels like a continuation of the wedding — not just a party afterwards.

If you think this might be the case for you, I strongly encourage you to plan an afterparty.  I hadn’t realized how important it was going to be for me.  As soon as I got into the bar after our reception, it was like a giant weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I promptly spilled beer on my dress (and didn’t care) and started loudly toasting with my friends.  For me, it turned out to be an absolute necessity.

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Contra Dance Wedding Reception

Posted on October 23rd, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 5 Comments

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All photographs by Kelly Prizel Photography

Our reception was held in the Red Barn at Hampshire College in Amherst, MA.  We ate good food and drank great beer (great beer was on our “will not compromise on this” list) and toasted with lots of champagne.  We sated our sweet-tooth with my aunt’s delicious cupcakes and danced to contra music provided by a local band called the Flying Garbanzos.  To sum up, we just generally indulged.

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DIY Gay Wedding Details

Posted on October 9th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 7 Comments

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You’ve seen the ceremony… now on to the little details!

shoesAll photographs by Kelly Prizel Photography

I went a little craft crazy with our wedding. Which was weird, since I had never undertaken a craft project in my life up to that point. I think I was just really scared that our wedding would end up looking like every other wedding in the history of weddings. I’m not sure why that scared me so much — probably because I was unsure about my feelings about weddings and marriage in the first place. So I crafted away for months and months (I’m not sure I would recommend taking on so many crafty details to anyone else — although I loved it, I did feel a little insane in the weeks before the wedding). So here they are… all the pretty little details, for your enjoyment!

Escort Cards and Table Numbers

You may remember from this post, that I was particularly excited about these vintage math flash cards. And they did not disappoint. They were pretty, they were unique, and I think people got a kick out of ‘em.

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Making Your Ceremony Personal

Posted on September 28th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 5 Comments

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holding handsAll Photographs by Kelly Prizel Photography

One of my favorite wedding bloggers (sadly, I can’t remember which one… but I bet it was Meg at apracticalwedding, she was my wedding planning guru through the whole process) said that a personal, moving ceremony sets the scene for the entire wedding. She seemed to think that it didn’t really matter what happened after the ceremony because if people felt like they had just played a part in something deeply moving and sacred, they would experience the wedding as a wonderful event, no matter what kind of table linens or music or favors there were at the reception. That bit of advice really stuck with me and looking back on our wedding I think it is absolutely true.

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Getting Ready at the Venue

Posted on September 18th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 7 Comments

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We ended up getting ready in the public bathroom of the venue… which I kind of love.  I love that in our photos there is graffiti on the mirrors and I love that I had to grab hold of the bathroom stalls as I got laced into my corset.  In the midst of a beautiful day, it was nice to have a little grit.

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All images by: Kelly Prizel Photography

Beau and her best man brother were all decked out in J. Crew pants.  Beau wore a matching vest and her brother wore suspenders.  We ended up getting Beau’s shirt at Club Monaco, which sells slim fitting shirts in an extra small.  They also will tailor shirts for free.  We had them shorten the length of the sleeves.  I think she looked pretty hot if I do say so myself.

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Wedding Day Salon Visit

Posted on September 14th, 2009 by Ms. Grrrl. 3 Comments

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I did it… I used “wife” for the first time today on the phone with the utilities company.  It’s official… we’re definitely married.

I’ll use my word-use triumph as an invitation to start the wedding re-cap posts.   Let’s start with the salon:

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All images by Kelly Prizel Photography

I totally put off making a hair and makeup appointment until it was really drawing VERY near the wedding.  I do not recommend this to others.  I had to make an appointment that was slightly too late and then I felt rushed trying to get into my party clothes and have all our formal shots taken.  I would definitely recommend getting your hair and makeup taken care of  five to six hours before the start of the ceremony.  Especially if you’ll have to do a lot of driving around from salon to hotel to venue.

My best friend and maid of honor was with me at the salon.  She took the opportunity to try and make me crack up while my makeup was being done.  This was particularly hilarous since I really couldn’t laugh or screw up my face in any way since there was always some kind of brush or pencil doing it’s intricate work on me.

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Another tip…  no matter how ridiculous and expensive it seems… get a trial hair appointment.  I wasn’t going to do it becuase it seemed totally ridiculous, but my mother convinced me that it really was a necessity, so two days before the wedding I went in for a trial.  I didn’t really know what I wanted, so I just said “um… I don’t want to look too bridal, but I think it want it up… but maybe not.”  God, that poor stylist.  Anyway, she did my hair and I HATED it… I mean… really hated it.  I felt like I was going to prom and it just didn’t feel like me.  So I had her try several more styles until she got to one that I felt really comfortable with.  Before we got the the style that I liked, I felt really stressed out and uncomfortable, like I wasn’t going to look or feel like myself on my wedding day.  I’m really glad I didn’t have to go through that on the day of my wedding. Cause when wedding day rolled around, I was cool, calm, relaxed and ready to joke around with my best friend.

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Oh… another tip… EAT.  Halfway through my salon appointment, I was FAMISHED and I realized that all I had eaten all day (it was 2pm), was a quarter of a bagel at 8am.  I had to send my MOH out to get me a smoothy, which I sipped very daintily while I got my hair done.

One tip that a married friend of mine gave me right before the salon appointment (I met up with friends in town before hand for a few minutes).  Relish your salon time… it’s the last relaxing time you’ll have all day… drink it in.

Next post… getting ready with my Beau.

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