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One year birthday! 5 Days of love.

11 Mar

Are you a reader who loves So You’re EnGAYged because of the real weddings? Or do you love following the bloggers about what they are planning?

Are you a vendor who has booked couples because of So You’re EnGAYged?

Are you a straight couple who is excited about So You’re EnGAYged because you believe in equality?

We would LOVE to hear from you! So You’re EnGAYged will be turning one next week and we would love to feature ideas/thoughts/love notes from our readers every day next week.

If your write up is chosen to be featured, we will send you a $5 starbucks card. So that’s 5 chances to win $5 and enjoy a cup of coffee!

Legal Gay Marriage in DC : A couple gets married the first day

10 Mar

Reverend Julie of Creative Ceremony was lucky enough to officiate and marry a couple in DC yesterday- the first day gay couples could legally be married.

I love it when Mother Nature cooperates. I officiate a lot of outdoor weddings. Probably 90% of the couples I marry want outdoor wedding ceremonies. It can be the middle of August, 95 degrees, and 100% humidity, in the full sun, and we’re out there sweating through a ceremony I’m shortening on the fly so that Grandma doesn’t pass out. Or it can be a blustery 45 degree evening in November, with unwarned guests freezing their tushes off in evening clothes as they sit through 20 minutes of pre-ceremony music and, yet again, a ceremony getting shorter by the minute. Couples love to plan outdoor weddings – no matter the season. But they sometimes forget that Mother Nature is also on their guest list.

Well today, Mother Nature didn’t just cooperate, she was positively beaming. After the worst winter on record in Washington, D.C., with piles of snow still dotting the landscape, it was in the upper 50s, with blue skies, and sunshine as Eva, Shana, and I gathered at their community garden plot. Today was the first day that same sex couples could legally marry in the District and it felt like Mother Nature, in a sweeping dramatic gesture, placed a sunny stamp of approval on this historic day.

With my BFF and colleague Tara along as our photographer, and a very hearty rosemary bush as our witness, Eva and Shana, who already had a fabulous wedding in St. Croix with their nearest and dearest in attendance, quietly renewed their marriage vows to one another and watched me sign the Marriage License issued to them by the Superior Court of the District of Columbia Marriage Bureau. They’ve been married for a year and a half now. But today, the State (or non-state as Eva correctly reminded me) recognized their marriage as legal. I’ve never felt so privileged to sign a marriage license. And I’m so happy it was Eva and Shana whose license I got to sign this day. Pardon me for a moment while I gush about them.

At their first wedding, on St. Croix in the U.S. Virgin Islands, Eva and Shana had a beach side ceremony with a reception catered by a local sustainable farm. Additionally, as a way to give back and say thank you for all the hospitality that St. Croix had shown them, they and many of their guests went out and worked on the farm the day after the wedding. Is that not the coolest thing ever? So for this their “second” wedding, they decided to have an intimate, quiet affair just for the two of them. Their garden plot is a place they come to year after year to tend the soil, grow a few vegetables, and give back to this city. And today, their garden plot was witness to the city offering a little something back to them.

Carol Hanisch once wrote that “the personal is political.” She was right. But today, in a brilliantly sunny patch of garden, on a quiet street in Northwest D.C., the political was quietly and beautifully personal. Congratulations Eva and Shana. We all celebrate with you this day.

- Julie

Real Gay Engagement in Washington DC : Christina and Meigh

10 Mar

Yay for DC’s Christina and Meigh engagement session! With DC gay marriage now legal, they are planning to get married this year :) Maggie Mudd Photography sent over this sweet session, so enjoy!

Christina and I met at a mutual friend’s Stitch n’ Bitch in the beginning of 2006, but we didn’t get together until I invited her to a house party that May.  The fates conspired with a whirlwind of unsuitable suitors, artfully spilled drinks and bedroom intruders (seriously, there is no way we’re going to be able to tell our kids how we got together), but we sort of accidentally ended up a couple after that night.  It was kind of a surprise to both of us, I think, since neither of us were out looking to find The One.  We’d both had some less than stellar past relationships, so we probably took the most glacial, completely backward route to the altar possible, with lots of conversations that went something like, “Oh, I’m not looking for anything serious, I in no way am totally in love with you, wait, what?”

Once we (finally) figured out that this was going to be a forever-type situation, we went and looked at rings together with a breezy sort of, “oh, if *someone* were going to buy me some very nice jewelry, *this ring here* would be splendid” kind of feeling.  So, telling everyone but each other (seriously, *all* our friends knew we were planning to propose to each other, but they’re very good secret keepers) we each separately went out and bought a ring.

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Real Gay Engagement Capitol Hill, Seattle : Stacey and Heather

8 Mar

Thanks *again* to Jenny GG for submitting these engagement pictures…she’s on a roll with amazing LGBT weddings/engagement sessions!


Stacey and I met on craigslist. Stacey posted what she called a “demanding” post. She put it all out there making sure that people knew that she was looking for something serious, something long term with a house and dog and picket fence in the future. She wanted the “whole enchilada!”

I found her post refreshing from all the others, because she wasn’t afraid to put it all out there. It was also all the things I was looking for too and I decided to be brave and respond to her post.

We met a week later and the rest is history. She is the most amazing and wonderful woman. She has such a big heart and kind way about her – Everything I never thought I would ever be able to find in my life. All our friends tease us for being so cute and in love!

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Dc Gay Couples Apply For Marriage Licenses

3 Mar

Thanks to Ms.Sparrow who went down to the courthouse and of course tweeted and took some pictures for us. And a big congratulations to all the couples!

DC Gay Marriage News

3 Mar

Today is the day DC starts accepting marriage applications for gay couples! So we are twittering and facebooking our little hearts out as new information comes in. We already shared that you can get free cupcakes from Hello Cupcake, pictures of the first couples applying this morning, and that there are no protestors!

Follow us on twitter or facebook to get all the latest news about DC gay marriage today.

Save The Date with Peach, Brown and Gold : DIY Letterpress

3 Mar

I spotted these save the dates on flickr and immediatly emailed Kiera Ormut-Fleishman and Jean-Pierre Gary, the amazing designers behind the invites. They were happy to share their hard work and some info on these lovelies.

We wanted to focus on light and airy colors (pink/peach, and gold).  We found the process incredibly fun to do ourselves. We designed the package in illustrator, ordered a plate and did the letterpress at a local workshop in Brooklyn.  The letterpress took only 2 hours, but the real work was the cutting of the paper and lining of envelopes, as well as addressing and stamps.  We hadn’t imagined we would have taken 3 weeks to get that complete once we were done letterpressing.  We had 109 invites in total mailed.

Our major mistake was trying to gold edge all the cards with a gold pen marker, as that started to come off right away onto our fingers and table (example here).  All of these we couldn’t use because it would just get on our fingers and anyone else’s who would open their envelope.

Wish Upon a Wedding

2 Mar

Wish upon a wedding is an organization dedicated to helping people with terminal illnesses have a wedding- regardless of sexual orientation. I had to blog about this open and amazing resource.

Check them out over here!

DC Marriage Tips

2 Mar

Tomorrow is the big day! DC will begin accepting applications for marriage licenses for same-sex couples.

Personally, my head has been swimming with the amount of craziness that you need to go through to get married in DC. So here’s a little help:

  • If you are going to apply for your marriage license tomorrow, be prepared to wait. DC has hired extra staff to help but with only 10 couples a day normally applying, it might be crazy.
  • Download and fill out the marriage form before heading out to the courthouse.
  • Don’t know where to go?

Hours of Operation
Mondays-Fridays: 8:30a.m.-5:00p.m.
Location
Moultrie Courthouse
500 Indiana Avenue, N.W., Room 4485
Washington, D.C. 20001
Main Contact
Phone: (202) 879-4840

  • You can NOT get married March 3rd. The earliest DC couples will be able to wed is March 9th. Here’s a link to all the info you could possibly want about the application/waiting process/officiant stuff.
  • Expect protesters. Yuk.
  • Remember your ID and your cash/money order.

Are you applying to get married tomorrow? Send us your photos/stories and we will post them here! Just email kelly AT soyoureengayged.com

Real Gay Wedding Provincetown, MA : Brandy and Kim

22 Feb

Anna Sawin Photography sent us over photos and some info about Brandy and Kim’s wedding:

My lovely brides today are Florida residents who took their love on the road for a destination wedding in Provincetown, MA.
Their close family members are spread around the country, and they all converged on the Cape for a glorious late spring wedding to celebrate the wedding of Brandy and Kim.

They love the ocean and the beach, and opted for a simple, outdoor ceremony with just their nearest and dearest there to witness it. They chose to literally “tie the knot” with silken cords as part of their ceremony. Afterwards, we hopped into pedicabs for a wild and joyous ride around town. Kim and Brandy toasted their marriage with champagne while the the crowds up and down Commercial Street cheered them on.

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