So You're EnGAYged, a LGBT wedding blog

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I come from a family that loves music– I mean, REALLY loves music.  My mom was drumming in a band when she was pregnant with me and finally had to give it up when her belly got so big that she couldn’t pick up a dropped stick.  Two of my earliest memories with my dad are when he took me with him to hear his favorite South African pop group perform, and when I accompanied him to a local independent radio station to “help” him DJ his weekly show.

Stacy and I also have many musical memories- in the early days of our relationship we spent many evenings out enjoying our favorite house DJs, and over the years we’ve discovered new favorite artists (The Shins, Vampire Weekend, Jack Johnson, Danger Mouse, Virginia Coalition) and reawakened our love for the classics (The Beatles, Al Green, Ella Fitzgerald, Van Morrison, Paul Simon). Stacy’s extra excited about the prospect of buying a house since it means we’ll finally have enough room and privacy for her turntables. We love having the radio playing as we make dinner or Sunday brunch, and every road trip becomes an excuse for getting some new tunes.

What we and our guests will hear at the wedding reception has been the subject of as much careful thought as what we’ll wear or eat. My best friend’s husband is a DJ, and he’s graciously offered his services for our reception. I trust his taste– they had Booker T on their wedding website, for goodness sakes– but I wanted each part of the reception to have a specific musical feel, so I came up with the following suggestions to give him.

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I have a membership at a gym I really like. It’s clean and bright, the staff is friendly, there are people of all sizes there, it’s usually not too crowded… And I hadn’t gone there since December.

See, I get into this awful cycle where if I don’t go to the gym, I feel super-guilty for not going to the gym, and so I, uh… Don’t go the gym because I feel guilty. I know. It’s crazy. And yet it’s an incredibly hard cycle for me to break. But I went tonight, and I’m hoping to get back into going three times a week.

Now, I don’t want you to think I buy into the BS idea that I should be at my lowest-ever weight/smallest size for my wedding day. I’ve never been what most people would call skinny, and I’m not going to pressure myself to fit someone else’s idea of what my body should look like. Anyway, I already bought a dress that’s comfortable, flattering… and fits me as I am (including what I’ve gained since I stopped going to the gym– hooray for corsets!).

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