I will admit that lately it has been hard to write about wedding planning. Not because we aren’t getting married – that is still the plan but because (right now) I’m tired of talking about it.
I am not trying to rain on anyone’s wedding parade but right now comparing wedding dress shapes to how I’m going to sell or donate most of my belongings for the move to NYC seems to take up the bulk of my mental energy.
So for the past couple of weeks, it has been hard for me to focus on wedding planning for too long. I actually feel somewhat guilty because this is a wedding site, IT IS, ya know, what we should be talking about so delving too far from that path, I feel like I’m wasting others time.
Even though, I am working on the wedding and I still want it to happen – I just didn’t realize how much the move would take its tool, especially with it getting closer everyday (the plan is to move in June). Lately, I have been thinking maybe we should elope and then throw the wedding another time, when things aren’t so stressful and up in the air.
Although, I know my fiancee wants to have all the pomp that comes with saying your nuptials but even she is getting worn out from all that we are doing in such a short amount of time.
I do need some advice, though (like always, lol). How do you pull yourself out of the wedding planning funk – if you suffered from it? Like, I enjoy knowing we will get married but everything right now is too much and with it being wedding season, I’m being inundated with expos and the like. I plan to go to some, just to keep my knowledge fresh (and to report – shhhh) but I can’t deny that I’m one step closer to throwing in the wedding towel and just going to the justice of the peace!
What is a girl to do? Any advice would be helpful. Hopefully, I didn’t bring you all down too much, just had to share.
Throw the wedding but do something small with just close friends and family and then on your anniversary THROW A BIG PARTAEEE!!!! or if u just want to do something big just get you some help which would make the load less heavy and stressful.
I am a little confused. I would do a small wedding with close friends. Why the rush to move? Why move before your into school or have a job in place? I wouldn’t recommend a move across the country without either in place. Way too many budget cuts in past year to colleges. I for one would hate to move to NYC and not get into school I really wanted to go too and than have to move again.
Sounds like you guys might need a bit of a break from the hustle-n-bustle. A mini sabbatical from the everyday.. Even a mini one-night super frugal “vacation” could do the trick. Just you two doing random little nothings meandering around some new, not-so-far getaway browsing antiques or what have you =) A weekend would be even better if you can squeeze it.
You can do it!
Planning, like a lot of other long processes, has ups and downs. You won’t be completely motivated about it all the time. And that’s OK — just focus on something else for a little while and you’ll get excited about the wedding later.
I did the move from DC to NYC a little over a year ago. We had five weeks from the time we found out we’d be moving to the time we unlocked the door at our new apartment. It’s daunting, stressful, and overwhelming. We only came for two marathon days to look at apartments. If you haven’t already picked a neighborhood, that should be your first step. Your commute won’t be that terrible regardless of where you’re coming from (the subway is so super fast compared to most suburban driving commutes), and you’ll want to love the place you live. I ended up in Park Slope, Brooklyn after a friend recommended it and don’t regret it one bit.
Definitely don’t let yourself throw in the towel unless a big wedding is really not your style. It sounds like you want it to happen, though, and your fiancee won’t be thrilled to delay the party to another time. Looking back, I think you’ll be glad you made the effort.
The best advice I can give you is to narrow your vendor choices by personal recommendations (chat boards and pre-screened blog lists are super helpful), make decisions, and don’t look back. The more you change your mind or get wishy-washy on a decision, the more stress you’ll have and the less progress you’ll make. If you have the budget for one, a wedding coordinator can steer you in the right direction and keep you organized over the next few months. Otherwise just write out the things you have left to do, organize them by urgency, and mark them off as you go. You’d be surprised how quickly it can go when you’re decisive.
Good luck with everything!
Sounds like my partner and I! We were supposed to get married in June and move in July. Well, we began the moving process in February and finalized our move to the west coast from the east coast in March. I started a new job so that June wedding is a no go. My probationary period won’t end until – gasp- September! I start school in October (just got the acceptance letter a couple of weeks ago), so we will get married after my probationary period and the weekend before school starts. Not our first choice, but it will happen! Venues, menus, and even some of the activities had to change. But, I am sure our wedding will be better for it! Keep your head up, your day will come when it is supposed too. Remember to enjoy the love of your life in the meantime. Stay focused! Stay positive! And just take in every moment!
Thanks for the positive vibes everyone! It helps a lot!