I love everything in this wedding collage from SixteenEighteen’s Photostream … but is it really right for me?
I was never much of a blog reader until I started planning a wedding. Before, I’d occasionally stumble upon a cute crafty tutorial or funny story, and find myself getting lost in someone else’s blog world, but it didn’t last long. By the next day, I would have forgotten the name of the blog and probably could not have found it again if I had to. The only non-wedding blog that I have ever visited regularly is Cake Wrecks. Nothing breaks up a boring work day like terribly designed pastries, I’ll tell you that.
Then one day I was hunting around on the internet for a suit that Rose would feel comfortable wearing for our wedding. I started wondering if we really were the only lesbian couple to have struggled with this dilemma. A google search of “butch wedding attire” brought me to the one and only So You’re Engayged! I was instantly hooked. I had never found a blog that was so relatable. And thus began my journey to find other similar blogs…
Now I reguarly peruse Offbeat Bride, Wedding Bee, Ruffled and A Practical Wedding. I’m still not a blog reading addict by any stretch of the imagination, but I do enjoy looking through my favorites every once in a while. And do you know what I have come to discover? There are WAY too many good ideas out there. All these gorgeous blogs give me inspiration overload! No wonder I couldn’t pick a theme! There are just too many to choose from. Black and white Old Hollywood Glam? Yes please. Playful floral garden party? I’ll take a little of that. Modern nerdy color overload? Why not! I’ve almost had to stop myself from looking at these blogs too often because I end up adding more things to my already full list of elements that just have to be a part of our wedding. I just love it all!
I think any wedding that has been personalized to a couple and planned with love is beautiful. All the little details and DIY touches that you can find out there are almost too much to bear for this bride. I’m about 6 months away from our wedding and I still feel like I haven’t fully wrapped my head around it all. Once in a while, I’ll see something crazy adorable on a blog and wonder how I can incorporate it into our wedding. “There just has to be a way to build our own ice cream bar next to a heated s’mores station!” I’ll think. I’m a big dreamer. I love color and I love creativity. But I also have to continue to tell myself that I cannot have EVERYTHING that appears on these blogs that I become smitten with. It’s just so hard when there are so many awesome wedding things to drool over out there! At first, I seriously considered a board game theme for the wedding, but it made me feel so limited by choosing something so specific.
That was probably my main problem with commiting to a theme and color scheme. I didn’t want to limit myself. I like options. However, as I continued to pick and choose what I do want to have, I have stepped back to realize that there just so happens to be an underlying theme amongst it all. That’s right folks… my wedding DOES have a theme. And if I absolutely had to give it a name, it would be “Love & Light.” Suddenly, all the details are falling together and starting to match. Our wedding has developed a life of it’s own!
A little theme inspiration from Mikael Miettinen’s Photostream.
Our venue was certainly a major inspiration for the overall feeling – the mood lighting, glass art and exposed brick give a romantic “lounge” feel while still remaining modern and almost playful. Everything is still a reflection of us, which was really imporant to me, but also revolve around an overall atmosphere that is becoming more and more clear. Even though I never intentionally picked out elements around this supposed theme, everything just so happens to work with it! I even found the design for our invitations that fits perfectly! I have to admit that I’m quite happy our wedding now has an official direction, even though I was so hesitant to choose one in the beginning. It makes it a little easier for me to merely look at wedding blogs simply for the satisfaction of it. Most of the things that I lust over don’t even fit our wedding, so I just have my moment of desire and move on… to the next blog ;)