For us, this one was kind of a no brainer. (Isn’t it nice to breeze through some decisions so you’re free to agonize over flowers?) I think we knew who we wanted to officiate our ceremony before deciding on any other aspect of the wedding.
Neither of us have any strong religious ties, so Sam and I decided to ask a friend who knows us both well and has been there for us over the years.
From 2001-2005, Sam and I were both volunteers at our college’s LGBT resource center. (We were acquaintances for most of that time and didn’t start dating until toward the end of college.) Lis, the Program Director, is just awesome- a great friend and mentor to many of the LGBTQ students on campus. You could show up any time to discuss all the issues and problems that seemed so huge at the time- both personal and academic.
Lis knew us both separately, before we started dating, and was around for the beginning of our relationship. It is very meaningful for us to have someone who was there during our early years together officiate our ceremony as we commit to our future together.
So, we have an out of state, non-clergy officiant. I am currently researching what we will need to make it all legal here in MA, and I will share what I find in a future post!
Who is marrying you? How did you choose? Are you running into any obstacles surrounding making it all official?