Archive for March, 2010

As you probably know by now, Alex and I live in England. In England, there is no such thing as a bachelor/ette party–and calling a night out before the big day such a thing would be about as obviously foreign as calling me by ‘Erica from America.’ Like Canadians, Brits call their big bash a Hen or Stag Night, depending on the gender of the special person (to be humiliated) for the night. Well, Alex and I really aren’t your typical Hens or Stags, and we’re inviting ‘both’ genders to our ‘night out’ (our brothers are our best men after all). Plus, we weren’t really OK with ‘L plates’ (the equivalent of a rookie jersey I guess…) or super super drunkenness. The end result: a Hag Night.

Due to various schedules being considered, our Hag Night was a Friday Night of a nice Italian dinner and a surprise evening at the Peacock Bar in London, a well-known and loved Hen Night destination. Enough talk though, I’ll just share the pictures now!

Complimentary Cocktails

Just before the Show

Apologies for the Blur

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First comes love, then comes marriage—and somewhere in the midst comes the inevitable move in together.  Sometimes couples move in before matrimony, others after, and some way before(insert lesbian/U-Haul joke here).  Deborah and I have been dating close to 3 years now, and living together for over a year and a half.  However, this past week we finally moved into a place of our own, with no roommates and just us.

At the time of the move, I was reading the Green Bride Guide by Kate Harrison. And as I was perusing through this totally rad book, I just couldn’t focus on the wedding.  All of our planning whatnots were already packed, and it was a case of out of sight, out of ridiculously stressed out mind. Yet, I kept finding different wedding ideas applicable to one step of married life—moving.

Wedding Co-Op
The Guide mentions this and so does Off-Beat Bride.  It is the idea of a group of folks going in together to purchase those mundane necessities (vases, tablecloths, poofy pretty things) and sharing them to reduce cost and environmental impact. I love this idea! And with many of my friends nearly engaged or already planning a wedding, this is an idea I hope to use.

During our move, Deborah and I pitched in to what I can now name a ‘moving co-op’.  A close couple of ours had purchased a mass quantity of storage tubs (90% post consumer waste recycled!) last spring in preparation for their move.  We reused their tubs, and various friends who helped us move are planning on using them too! The idea of tubs was great—they are super easy to carry, only cost about $5.00 and have no waste at all and can be reused, either for storage or more moving.   You can even reuse them during the same move!  Instead of using old newspaper (or new newspaper) we wrapped our glasses and plates in t-shirts and pajamas.  It worked really well and nothing we have unpacked has been broken!

Stacked Neatly, Waiting to Be Unpaacked!

I think we saved over $100 by using these tubs, when you factor in tape, multiple boxes and bubblewrap. Photo by Me!

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Photo by Gumption via Creative Commons

Ginger and I, like many of the bloggers here at SYE, are committed to trying to minimize the environmental impact of our wedding. We are doing this in a variety of ways from picking a central location so fewer guests will have to drive to using recycled paper for our  invitations. Sometimes the solution is spending more, and that can be difficult to swallow. I’m looking at you organic dinner and fair trade coffee. Buying seasonal, local food and flowers means you have to accept variability and limited choices. For example, I thought a tight bunch of white carnations would make for a modern and inexpensive centerpiece. But uh, I didn’t realize carnations aren’t grown in Maryland. Instead, we will use pretty spring flowers like ranunculus, anemones, tulips, and lilies. Some of the best eco friendly wedding ideas are all about creativity. Erica’s firefly bottle centerpiece vases are really inspiring me right now! To offset the premium we are paying for some of our eco friendly wedding choices I am trying to take advantage of some of the more budget friendly things we can do. I’m planning to buy vintage cake plates on EBAY instead of brand new ones for our cake buffet. To minimize waste, I asked our caterer to serve water in pitchers instead of bottles at the bar. Simple flowers from our florist ended up being significantly less expensive then what I was quoted by florists that didn’t restrict their buying to local farms. Which was a nice relief after looking at the price tag for food. We decided to skip favors entirely. I thought about doing a charity favor, but decided against it. We will donate to charity in honor of our wedding but I don’t want to specifically do this as a favor to our guests. When I get nervous about this decision because HOW CAN YOU NOT HAVE FAVORS!?!, I read this to remind myself it’s ok. Also, no bathroom baskets or out of town bags. We are doing lots of things to be good hosts to our guests (like the day after brunch), and I just don’t think any wedding NEEDS this extra stuff.

The Green Bride Guide

I recently discovered The Green Bride Guide, and found it really helpful. The author, Kate Harrison, organizes all of her eco wedding ideas by topic and highlights which are most budget friendly. It makes finding ways to save and be “green” really easy. Definitely recommend it.

I have to be honest that while we are both generally concerned about making our wedding an environmentally low-impact affair, we haven’t gone to the full extent that one could.  Travel and food are unfortunately our biggest regrets in terms of things that we didn’t go “green” on.  Everyone we know is scattered, so to get everyone in one place travel was unavoidable.  And we will be requesting that our caterer source locally and organic when possible, but we weren’t able to secure a caterer who specialized in completely organic and local  foods… money being the biggest issue.  So our big focus has been on reusability!  Below are some of the things we’ve done to make sure that our affair is at least a little eco-friendly.

-No Flowers!  This is, I think, a pretty big one.  Most flowers from the typical florists are transported VERY long distances (and utilizing exceptionally high-energy refrigeration systems), grown with a considerable amount of pesticides, and most often unethically harvested by exploiting workers (particularly women and children) in developing countries.  We are using no flowers at all, choosing instead to use feathers to create “wear’em-again” accessories (boutonnieres, corsages, and fascinators) and our decorative centerpieces.  Our centerpieces are actually going to be lamps made with feathers, mirrors, and these crazy glowing orb things (rechargeable battery-powered) – so lamps are actually something people will take home and use again!  *using cruelty-free feathers when possible*

-No Disposables!  We’ll be renting all our tableware, etc. so we are completely avoiding any disposable products for the dinner.  And my hope is that we can negotiate with the caterer for food waste to be composted.  We plan to make sure the bar gives out water by the glass instead of bottled-water, serves fountain instead of canned soda, and recycles all beer and wine bottles.    I’m wary that plastic cups are going to come into the mix: I know for the bar that the price difference between plastic and renting is going to be huge, and I have yet to figure out for sure if we can afford to make the bar completely plastic-free.  But plastic-free would be our ideal situation, so I’m gonna push for it!

-Cut Down The Travel!  It’s bad enough a lot of people will have to travel long distances to get to our wedding, so we’re trying to keep travel to a minimum the weekend they’re there.  We’re having the ceremony and reception in one place, and have chosen hotels in walking distance for our guests.  And we’re making efforts to encourage our guests to use public transit while visiting – people often get intimidated by the New York subway system and resort to taking cabs everywhere (justifying it because, at least in Manhattan, it’s always short enough distances that the cost is never too high), so on our website we are providing detailed instructions, maps, and info on how to use the subway.

-Reusable Favours!  Our favours and gifts all avoid any disposable material: no paper, no boxes, no wrapping, etc.  We are giving out martini glasses, drink recipe cards, and some other little goodies in reusable bags.

-Keep It Simple!  There are lots of small choices we’ve made along the way to just try and keep our consumption to a minimum.  We are both pretty simple people, and don’t feel the need to use the wedding as an excuse to buy a lot of “stuff”.  There are lots of traditional wedding stuff we’re skipping altogether, and using things we already own, etc.  We reduced our paper use by using postcard Save-The-Dates (no envelopes), did simple invitations that only used a single layer of paper, and skipped the extra paper in the invite by using a website for additional information like maps, rehearsal dinner and after party info, accomodations, etc.

I’ll admit that they are all very small things, but I like to think that it adds up to make a difference.  I know a lot of weddings of our size can generate a lot of waste, and I’m happy that we’ve at least made some efforts to keep it to a minimum.

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